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Ral Joseph's avatar

Thus happened with my Neighbor. I had no idea she felt that way. And so she opened up and told me and I was like none of it was on purpose and now we’re cool.

Things bites at us and eats us alive and we don’t say them. It’s very unhealthy. The best is just to communicate no matter how uncomfortably it makes us.

Thank you my friend💯

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Ilham ✨'s avatar

Thank you, Ral, for adding your thoughts and your experience with your neighbor 💞Communication in times of conflict can feel tedious and terrifying, but as you said, burying our resentment is worse. Our health depends on us speaking up! 🗣️

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Marwa Mabrouk's avatar

Great article. If we don’t share what is not making sense to us or bothering us, how are people going to know. They’re probably not psychic 🙂

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Ilham ✨'s avatar

Probably not 🤭 The problem is that most people, including myself, were not raised to believe that speaking up about their expectations is their responsibility. But there's tremendous power in that. So glad you enjoyed the article, Marwa. Grateful for your support 🙏🏻

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Marwa Mabrouk's avatar

🙏🫶

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THE SILK GAZETTE-Mansi Ranga's avatar

I absolutely loved it 🩷

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Ilham ✨'s avatar

Oh, I'm so glad you did, Mansi! 🥹 Thank you so much 💜

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THE SILK GAZETTE-Mansi Ranga's avatar

😇🩷

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Not Exactly Ana's avatar

As someone who has difficulty with certain types of conversations, I found this article particularly helpful. And I plan to come back to it as a golden reminder. Thank you.

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Ilham ✨'s avatar

Oh waw, this means the world to me. I'm so glad it helped. Thank you so much for letting me know 🙏🏻

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Sue Reid's avatar

This is so helpful Ilham, as difficult conversations are always hard to have. The quicker we have them, the better, otherwise we can work ourselves up until we end up tagging the issue onto an argument making the situation worse. Motivational speaker, Lisa Nichols, talks about having a ‘carefrontation’, rather than confrontation. I love that term because it tells you to say it with love, not in anger💕

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Ilham ✨'s avatar

Omg I love the word "carefrontation"!! I'm going to be using it from now on. It really carries everything I wanted to convey in this post 💞 Very insightful, thank you, Sue 🩷

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Sue Reid's avatar

Lisa Nichols is worth looking up if you don’t know her 💕

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Ilham ✨'s avatar

I definitely will, thank you 😘

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Mahmoud Owies's avatar

This!! I'll read it again!

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Ilham ✨'s avatar

Your support means a lot, thank you Mahmoud ✨🤍

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