Telling your brain it’s ‘not a tiger’ is a great de escalation because as soon as you start to become aware of these thoughts, you are no longer attached to them.
The trouble with emails is the real message is often misunderstood. It’s much better to speak in person if you can. 💕
I really treat email like dangerous little devices that should be handled with extra care. The way you write and the tone it's read in can be completely different and elicit surprising reactions.
Absolutely. The very worst for me were the blanket emails that made the whole team think they had done something wrong. When you get annoyed (which I did all the time!), they’d say ‘We didn’t mean you.’ So why send it to me then!
My most recent thing is silence.. or a delayed response. It gives space for my brain to freak out and second guess everything! Love the clear cut ‘not a tiger…’ and might start using that now!
Me and my emails in a nutshell 🤣 i do not use the same mantra though, mine is, it is just an email, We are not performing open heart surgeries here. It’s fine!!
Such a funny example. Love it! 🙂
We 'read between the lines' at our peril!
Well-said, Peter! 🤭
Telling your brain it’s ‘not a tiger’ is a great de escalation because as soon as you start to become aware of these thoughts, you are no longer attached to them.
The trouble with emails is the real message is often misunderstood. It’s much better to speak in person if you can. 💕
I really treat email like dangerous little devices that should be handled with extra care. The way you write and the tone it's read in can be completely different and elicit surprising reactions.
Absolutely. The very worst for me were the blanket emails that made the whole team think they had done something wrong. When you get annoyed (which I did all the time!), they’d say ‘We didn’t mean you.’ So why send it to me then!
Still annoys me now 😡😂
My most recent thing is silence.. or a delayed response. It gives space for my brain to freak out and second guess everything! Love the clear cut ‘not a tiger…’ and might start using that now!
Silence is an underrated tool. You're right to use it in these cases!
Me and my emails in a nutshell 🤣 i do not use the same mantra though, mine is, it is just an email, We are not performing open heart surgeries here. It’s fine!!
Good one! 🤭 It does the job just as well.
The title humbled me, lovely essay! ♥️
Thank you, Sanaa!! 💕🙏🏻
This is a very smart reframe. Not a tiger is a great way to de-escalate the rush of feelings that come up...going to try this one!
Thank you, Susan! I hope it helps you as much as it helps me 🤍
Perhaps her memory is the problem, or she misunderstood your good listening skills as agreeing. That’s what I think of first.
API - Assuming Positive Intention!! It's a beautiful way to handle this kind of situations. Bravo, Cody!