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VedicSoul - By~ A Bhardwaj's avatar

A good read and beautifully written..

Thank you 🙏

Ilham ✨'s avatar

Thank you so much, your words mean a lot to me 🙏🏻🤍

VedicSoul - By~ A Bhardwaj's avatar

Pleasure was mine 🙏

Victoria Jones's avatar

This is beautifully written. I find a lot of the advice for anything like this a little too vague; we need more of an instruction manual, a map. When we can't just flip the switch, a shame spiral can start, at least for me, it does. Thank you so much for sharing this.

Ilham ✨'s avatar

Thank you, Victoria 🙏🏻 I'm also familiar with the shame spirals and how awful they feel. Which is why having tools to navigate difficult moments is very important.

We'll get there 🤍

Eli's avatar

Nobody ever teaches us this but it has become a lifeline for me! Thank you for sharing! Beautifully said.

Ilham ✨'s avatar

Thank you, Elizabeth 🙏🏻🌱

Grace Grossmann's avatar

Feel your feels. For many, it's so hard because we are used to pushing down and carrying on. You've written this so well IIham with the steps! 🪜✨ I'm here to remind us how to Feel, deal, heal🦋 together 🫂

Ilham ✨'s avatar

You're very kind, Grace, thank you so much 💛🫂

Sue Reid's avatar

A lovely well written guide Ilham. ‘We started to eat, scroll, drink, or shop our way out of discomfort’ - I did all of these (apart from scrolling, but had it been invented in my dark days, it would have been another coping strategy.)

If you haven’t already read it, you might like Radical Compassion by Tara Brach.💕

Ilham ✨'s avatar

I love the sound of Radical Compassion, I'll make sure to check it out. Thank you, Sue, for the recommendation and for your support 💞

Sue Reid's avatar

It covers alot if what you have talked about 💕

Jonathon Barbato's avatar

Nicely done. We so often forget how to do this (especially with feelings we don't want). I appreciated the reminders!! More please.

Ilham ✨'s avatar

Thank you, Jonathon! 😊🙏🏻

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Ilham ✨'s avatar

This sounds like a great read, Valle! Thank you for recommending it. You got me excited to check it out 😊 I’ll get back to you after reading it!